Month: February 2008

Weekend Assignment

I donned my reporter’s hat Saturday and drove down to the natatorium at IUPUI to cover the Indiana boys swimming and diving championships. I hung out with some swimmers in high school, so I understand how swimmers are second only to wrestlers when it comes to strange high school athletes, but had never been to a proper meet. It was an interesting afternoon.

First off, people go crazy at these things. They stand up and scream for the entire race, which at the high school level, can last as long as six minutes (500 yards is the longest distance used in competition in Indiana). There are organized groups of cheering students, complete with special cheers for each race, costumes, and counters to other school’s cheers. I thought I was full of spirit in high school, losing my voice to cheer on our volleyball team. I never considered going to a swim meet.

My task was actually pretty easy. The paper I work for only covers two high schools that had kids competing, and Friday night I already knew, from the prelims, that I would only be covering one swimmer, one relay team (both in consolation finals), and one diver. That gave me time to get my bearings, figure out what the hell was going on, and try to come up with some decent questions before I had to head down to the deck and interview kids and coaches.

The diver made things interesting. He finished fifth last year, as a sophomore, and was expected to do well again this year. He began the finals in fourth place, dove well through the finals, got a little help from the kid in front of him, and finished third. He was as giddy as a school girl when I interviewed him. Yes, that is a veiled reference to some of his characteristics. Let’s make no bones about it: most of the divers fit the stereotype for what you think of guys that dive. And before anyone gets upset with me, I hope my credentials as someone who does not care about such things has been firmly established over many, many years. I’m just sayin’, that’s all.

Once again, I had a real press pass, and got to sit up in special media seats. It probably says a lot about me that I get a kick out of that. I’m sure all the divers would make fun of me if they knew a 36-year-old man felt that way.

The swimmers did ok. The individual finished 15th overall, which means he was 7th in his consolation race. The relay did very well, finishing second in their consolation final, taking 10th overall. Interviews went well, and I think my story was solid.

There was some other excitement, with three state records falling and the closest team competition in 19 years. That made for some nice filler for my story. In the competition’s final race, the top two teams went back-and-forth over the four legs of a relay and touched within a blink of each other. The defending champions won the relay, but still came up five points short in the team competition. Terrific drama, if you’re into that kind of thing.

Some other things I noted while there:

First, worth mentioning, the natatorium has hosted four previous Olympic swimming trials and will host the diving trials later this year. Pretty cool to see the names for the 1984, 1988, 1992, and 2000 Olympic teams panted on the wall. Who knew Rowdy Gaines would one day be selling <a href=”http://www.endlesspools.com/why/swimming/swim_rowdy.html”>Endless Pool</a>s on TV?

The award platforms were stupid. They were these cylindrical platforms that rose higher as you moved from eighth to first place, with first place being like four feet off the floor. There were no steps or ladders, so the winners had to hop up on their own. This was really interesting for the relay teams, which had to crowd four guys onto each spot.

One kid, who won two events, slapped a walking boot onto one of his ankles immediately after each race. Doesn’t it still hurt like hell if you’ve got some kind of fracture in your foot and you’re swimming? I mean, you use your feet to swim, right? Yet he won two state championships. It must have been extra humiliating for all the guys he beat to watch him hobble by afterwards.

OK, I mentioned how people are crazy? Everyone waves their hands the direction the kids are swimming. Most people kind of flick their hands, like they’re shooing a fly away, one direction as the kids go down the pool, then reverse direction as they return to the opposite side. I wonder if it’s an aerodynamic assist? When you see a couple thousand people doing it, it’s pretty funny.

What was really cool, though, was seeing coaches and parents and teammates go crazy when a team or person performed really well, but maybe finished fifth in their race. There are probably a lot of kids who didn’t win, but swam their best time ever, or came back from well back to make a respectable showing. It was nice to see the enthusiasm for the effort not be diminished because a kid didn’t finish first or second.

The kid that won the diving competition is named Jimmy Page. As is his father. And according to a story I read today, both father and son are huge Zeppelin fans. That’s the best story I’ve come across this year. If I covered his school, I’d volunteer to write a 2000 word feature about all of that. There’s nothing but good things in that story.

You know you’re watching a high school event in the midwest when people politely applaud even when the divers fail to pull off their dive and hit the water with a smack. That was kind of nice.

They played lots of up-beat music before events. I was sitting next to the North Central student section. Before one race they played Blink 182’s “All the Small Things,” which is from 1999. Every kid in the NC section knew all the words and was singing along. Who knew Blink had such staying power?

Finally, after each award ceremony, the announcer said, “Sincere congratulations to all competitors…” It made me wonder, have they had a problem with sarcastic congratulations in the past?

Oh, and it’s nice to spend a day in a balmy, chlorinated natatorium on a cold, February day.

Round Numbers

I’ve come at this a couple different ways and wasn’t terribly satisfied with the results, so I’ll give this a third shot and see what happens.

It was ten years ago today (February 22) that my mom was killed in a car accident. As with any anniversary, in some ways it seems like yesterday, and in others it seems like it’s been a lot longer than ten years. As I’ve thought about this, I realized that there is about a 14 hour stretch of time from that day where I remember everything that happened, that I thought, that I said, and that I did, beginning at 6:00 PM when my step-dad called and told me she had been in an accident. In that sense, it seems like it was just a week ago or so. But, when I look at all the things I’ve accomplished and experienced since then, though, I realize that it really has been a long time.

As most of you know, S.’s mom died 15 years ago this summer, and we talk often about what we’ve missed during the time since both our mothers passed. We both realized that our mothers are forever frozen in time. While S.’s dad and my step-dad have continued to age, my mom is still 46 and S.’s is still 53. It’s odd to wonder about what my mom would be like today if she had lived. Would she be healthy, what would she look like, how would her personality have changed as she aged? And, of course, as the time since her death gets greater and greater, it becomes harder and harder to visualize her, to hear her voice, and so on.

I don’t make a huge deal out of the date, because I think of her and miss her every day. I went through my grieving process and I’m not one to get sucked back into that. But I will think about her a little more today, hoping that I’m living up to her high standards most of the time and grateful that my life is as good as it is.

The Heartbreak Of eBay

So I’m kind of addicted to eBay. We won’t get into the details, but since I finally checked it out last summer, I’ve become a bit of a fiend. I’ve sold some things, bought some things, but most tellingly bid on some stuff I absolutely did not need. Fortunately, all the Don’t Need items went to someone else. I’m not going all Woody Boyd on the Home Shopping Network.

For the most part, I’ve found eBay to be awesome. Until yesterday.

I had a high quality item for sale (the details are being left out to keep all of you from thinking I’m a bigger dork than you already believe me to be) and, as can happen in eBay, people were bidding like crazy over the last ten minutes. The price went up 20% in that time, and I was feeling pretty good about things. The winning bid ended up being significantly higher than I had hoped for. Then, half an hour after the auction ended, I get a message from eBay saying that the winning bidder’s account details had been compromised and someone was using it to bid without the owner’s permission. Thus, they were voiding the auction. No chance to give it to the second place finisher. No automatic relisting. No money in my PayPal pocket. Serious pisser.

So now I’m bummed and a little sour on eBay. I may use Craig’s List to try to move this item, although my brother-in-law who uses CL quite a bit says it can be maddening, too. And I may stay signed out of eBay for awhile.

Then again, I wonder if there are any George Brett rookie cards on eBay right now…

Coupla Lame Asses

Another streak is broken. Saturday night, S. and I went to see our first movie in a theater together since 2004. One of her sisters informed us that we would be going out and she would be watching the girls, so we decided to go crazy and see a flick instead of just going to dinner. We caught Juno, which I thought was as good as everything I had heard about it. We even went to the artsy theater instead of the multiplex, so I drank a glass of beer while we watched. I’m not talking about some paper cup. I’m talking about a glass of beer. And I can’t get “Anyone Else But You” out of my head.

For the record, the last movie we saw together in a theater was Anchorman, two weeks before M. was born. We really know how to pick them.

Nudists

My daughters are becoming nudists. It’s pissing me off.

Yesterday, while I was off getting groceries, M. came prancing downstairs after her aborted nap buck naked, according to S.. Last night, while I was doing some stuff here in the office, she came strolling in naked again. Making matters worse was, right behind her, C. wearing only a diaper and one sock. And I’m pretty sure if she could have figured out how to get that sock off she would have. Then, again, tonight both girls were stripping down after dinner.

I’ve invoked a “I don’t talk to naked girls” policy, since surely this is an attempt to get attention. As long as there is no peeing on the floor, I’ll let her run around all day without clothes on until she starts freezing and gets the point.

“No one sleeps naked in this house!”

Denver Trip Summary

As reported, the family has returned, intact, from our adventure to Colorado. The top of the line bullet points are that the girls earned an overall B+ for their behavior and S. and I have decided we’re not traveling with the girls again until they are both at least five.

The flight out was mostly uneventful. C. was fussy for about ten minutes in the middle, but otherwise fine. M. loved the airplane toilets, which is surprising. After she used it, she jumped into the seat next to me, put her arms out, rocked from side to side, and said, “Dad, I used the BUMPY potty!” Who knew she would like a little turbulence with her bathroom usage?

We were lulled into a false sense of security, though. Around 3:00 that night/morning, C. woke up screaming like she’s never really screamed before. This continued for about 40 minutes, and only some Motrin, milk, and Dora in the DVD player finally wore her down. Based on the newspapers left in front of the doors of the surrounding rooms, we think we may have been the only people in that corner of the floor, so hopefully no one else had to endure the meltdown. Oh, and M. got wound up and did her own act for about 20 minutes. Fun.<

Friday, I met with a couple friends from my KC days who I had not seen in 4-5 years for lunch. (What up, Erin and Mandi?!?!) That night was the rehearsal dinner for my sister-in-law’s wedding. The girls were decent, although they preferred to run around the room, going up the stairs then down the wheel-chair ramp on the far side over-and-over again. Fortunately, most of the people there seemed to think it was cute. By the time we ate, they were pretty much trashed and refused to eat their food. M. and I had a several little talks and took a couple walks when her behavior was less than ideal. Night #2 was better, with C. only waking up once for just a few minutes.

Saturday was wedding day, and we were very nervous. Although the girls were not in the wedding (parents’ insistence) they and we were included in the pictures. So they needed to be in their dresses and ready by 3:00, which should be nap time. They did ok in pictures, then got antsy/fussy. I was really worried about C. going into the ceremony, but the Motrin apparently kicked in just in time and she played happily on my lap. Once, she caught a glimpse of S. up front and said her name, but there was no meltdown. M., on the other hand, passed out in S.’s aunt’s lap about ten minutes into the ceremony. That was nice, since it meant we could sit for the entire ceremony (It was at an Episcopal church, FWIW).

The reception was a little much for both of them. They had fun at times, especially when they got to dance with their aunts, but they tired quickly and we made a hasty exit just as the party was really starting.

I think that night was ok, although I’m not sure. One night in Denver I woke up with a nasty nosebleed and had to sleep sitting up the rest of the night. I forget which night it was. Damn is it dry in Denver.

Sunday, most of the family packed up and headed into the mountains for a couple days in Breckenridge. The weather was great on the way up, sunny and warm. We arrived in the late afternoon and my brother-in-law and I had a celebratory beer. Mistake. Between being sleep-deprived, dehydrated, and the altitude, that one beer hit us both pretty hard. In addition, I had never been at that altitude before and it quickly kicked my ass. I was gasping for breath after each trip up the stairs (our place had four levels, and our bedroom was in the basement while the common area was on the third floor) and when I went to bed, I felt like I couldn’t fill my lungs. It was a pretty nasty sensation. Why do people live in the mountains again?

Monday was our day to play. It was snowing, but we took the girls over to Keystone for some tubing fun. On our first trip down the hill, M., who was sitting in my lap, starting screaming, “I don’t like this, I don’t like this!” When we got to the bottom, she said, “Daddy, can we do that again?” She loved it; C. had a good time but perhaps not quite as much fun. Luckily, my altitude issues had passed and I was able to climb the hill for about 45 minutes.

We headed back to Denver Tuesday in a snowstorm. It didn’t seem like much at first, but as we climbed away from Breck, the snow picked up, the roads got more covered, and big trucks were pulling off I-70 and either putting on chains or waiting it out. As we were climbing one hill, which didn’t seem all that slick, we noticed a black SUV off the side of the road, facing the wrong way. After about two beats we realized it was my sister-in-law. We pulled off and ran back quickly. Everyone was ok, if shaken. They hit a slick spot, swerved across the road, then spun around and into a snowbank. We were able to push her out and her truck (My old 4Runner, BTW) seemed ok, so we cautiously got back onto the road. It took several minutes for the crap-ass Chevy van we had to get good traction, and it was a pretty tense 45 minutes or so until we got below the snowline. I was really glad we were on I-70, which is wide and has guardrails and no steep drop-offs, and not one of those crazy highways that go right to the edge and lack guardrails so the snow can be plowed over the edge.

We made it to the airport in plenty of time, the girls enjoyed the train ride to the terminal, and after a slight delay, we winged it back home so we could drive home in the remnants of the snow/ice storm that had gone through Indy the previous night and morning. C. was a little more restless this time around, but not horrible. The aunts and friend in the other seats were a huge help. M. passed out about 30 minutes before we landed.

Overall, solid trip. It’s definitely different traveling with little kids. You spend a ton of time and energy trying to control their behavior, always worried that they are interfering with other peoples’ good times. It’s a drain and not one we’re ready to repeat, even if we had a pretty decent time. I think this was the first time in two or three years we had S.’s entire family together at one time, so that was fun, too. It’s very nice to have another guy in the family. At another time, I’ll share the phenomenal prank my father-in-law pulled on the bride during the reception.

We’re Off

I forget if I’ve mentioned it, but tonight we head to Denver for a wedding and then a couple days in the mountains. It will be C.’s first trip on a plane, which of course presents all kinds of interesting scenarios. Fortunately, we’ll have two aunts and an honorary aunt sitting in the same aisle as us, so we’ll have five adults to handle two kids. And we’re flying on Frontier, which has the sweet TV screens in the seat backs.

This morning, the girls got to go to work with their mom. S. was doing a presentation for the residents on the developmental stages of kids. So various nurses and physicians brought in their kids, a ton of toys, and we forced the little ones to demonstrate what they can do at each age. C. got to stack blocks and color. M. got to stand on one foot, stack blocks while counting them, copy what S. drew, and pedal a tricycle. And C. decided to eat about 20 things from the breakfast items that had been laid out for the attendees. I’m not sure where that puts her on the developmental scale.

We will return Tuesday, hopefully with our wits about us and pictures and stories to share.

Change

It’s Super Tuesday. Indulge me in a little politics.

It seems trite to say that I’m throwing the immense weight of the blog behind the candidacy of Barack Obama simply because he is campaigning on a promise to bring change to this country. After all. doesn’t every candidate claim to support change of one kind or another? Isn’t it more important to select a candidate that offers a platform or area of expertise that you believe best fits the nation’s needs? Or perhaps the candidate that will mean the most pork/tax breaks for your community/state/business?

Please don’t misunderstand or oversimplify my reasoning. I think Barack’s overall plan is excellent. He combines many of the things those of us who label ourselves and liberals/progressives want from government with the knowledge that you can’t govern with a rigid ideaology. But, I believe he gives the nation the best chance to move forward into a new age. Since at least 1993, we’ve been living in an era of hyper-partisanship, where Republicans and Democrats work together for the good of the country only as a last resort and see compromise as surrender. Politicians and those behind the scenes have been more interested in demonizing each other, and questioning the patriotism of those they disagree with, than finding common ground and getting things done. It is time for a new age, where those who are willing to listen to their opponents, thoughtfully consider different ideas, and then honestly and openly debate and in order to get policies that represent the interests of more than just 50% plus one regain control. Our nation deserves better than what the last 15 years have given us.

Make no mistake, Barrack will not change things overnight, nor will he eliminate the culture that dominated both Washington and the political punditry. If he manages to gain the Democratic nomination, the Republican money machine will spring into action, tearing him apart with half-truths and exaggerations, telling us he’s a Muslim, a drug dealer, in debt to black separatists, and who knows what else. But, if he can get elected, I honestly believe he will reach out to those who have different visions for our nation, both politicians and regular Americans, and work to bridge at least some of the artificial gaps that have been created during the Clinton-Bush years.

For the record, I think Hillary Clinton would make a fine president. However, I have no interest in reliving the scandals of the 90s. If she gets the nomination, we’re going to be subjected to six months of ads about everything that went wrong in the 90s, while she defends herself by telling us about everything that went right in the 90s. The fact that the next president will take office in 2009 will get lost in the noise. If elected, you know there is a host of congressional Republicans who will want to open every investigation that ended when Bill Clinton left office, and probably add a few new ones to the docket. And while Hillary has earned a reputation for being able to work with Republicans in the Senate, John McCain notably, I doubt the goodwill she’s built in her time in the Senate will carry over to the White House. In short, we’ll be subjected to at least four more years of zero-sum, slash-and-burn politics from both sides, with scandal and rumor taking precedence over policy. I also have trouble with the fact I don’t think she’s comfortable being herself. Everyone, even her detractors, say that she is much different in private than what we see in public. She’s warm, engaging, and interested in hearing out others. I have a hard time trusting someone who is afraid to be themselves.

I greatly admire John McCain. His service to this nation can not be questioned. This nation would be a much better place if others shared his ability to move beyond the Vietnam war and forgive people for their perceived mistakes 30-40 years ago. I admire some of his ideas related to public service, and his willingness not to cave on immigration reforms based on demonizing immigrants rather than considering all the costs of the problem. However, I think his reputation as a Maverick is overstated, and frankly am concerned about anyone who defends President Bush and the Iraq war as aggressively as McCain has done. I said this before, but he has a Bob Dole 1996 smell to him: the old war veteran who has put in his time, kissed and made up with those he’s crossed in the past, and sold his soul in order to become president.

I support Barrack for more than just change, though. He was brave enough to speak publicly against the Iraq war from the beginning, something that could have easily derailed his political career before the left the Illinois statehouse. Those of us who were also against the war in 2003 remember what a bad time that was, when anyone who dared speak out against the war was branded a collaborator with Al-Queda or hater of America. I believe Barrack is someone who will thoughtfully consider policy options rather than adhering to a rigid philosophy and refusing to adjust course when things don’t go as planned.

And, frankly, his candidacy excites me. You should base your vote on more than who generates the most excitement, but I look forward to what an Obama administration would mean for this country. I’m not excited about Clinton, McCain, or some mystery candidate (Bloomberg, Gingrich, Gore) taking office.

He may not be the perfect candidate, despite some of the mythology that is being created about him, but I think Barack Obama gives our nation the best chance to move forward.

So, that’s that. Most people expect Hillary to have the advantage today, but many feel if she can’t knock out Barack, he’s positioned very well over the next month of primaries and caucuses. He clearly has all the momentum at this point, it’s just a matter of whether than can be sustained through, at the surface, what may appear to many as a disappointing result today. We shall see. Unless Romney pulls multiple major surprises, I expect McCain to pretty much have the nomination secured after tonight.

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