Month: November 2008

A Very Birdy Weekend

I hope all y’alls had wonderful Thanksgiving weekends. Ours was good, if busy. I worked Wednesday night, we went to the in-law’s for a fantastic Thanksgiving dinner, and then S. went back to work Thursday night. The night was ok. The older sisters were beat from their busy day, so did well at bedtime. L. did pretty well, also, although she decided she couldn’t sleep more than 2.5 hours at a time. I think I got about four hours of sleep during the night, then another hour or so in the morning on the couch. The big sisters completely destroyed the house in the hour L. and I were snoozing in the living room. S. was fried when she got home, I was fried, the girls were wound up, and the results were predictable. Not one of our finest parenting days ever.

We did rally enough to get out and buy a Christmas tree Friday. Since S. was working the day shift both weekend days and the weather was supposed to turn nasty after the weekend, we figured that was the day to do it. About all we got done after that, though, was getting the tree inside and in the stand. We were too tired and the girls were too crazy for us to think about getting it trimmed and the other decorations out.

The two weekend days went pretty well. S. had fairly easy days and was home midday both times. We did try to bite off more than we could chew Saturday, though. I got the girls out of the house for about half an hour, taking them to the bookstore so they could play. When I got home I found one sister-in-law here to help take some pictures of the girls. Another sister-in-law was heading over for a visit with the girls. There was a tree to be trimmed. We were having our mini-Thanksgiving dinner that night. Oh, and there was a football game that I had some interest in.* Things got hectic for a few hours, and dinner took about an hour longer to make than I had planned, but everything turned out ok. Dinner was tasty, we got some good pics of the girls, had a good visit with the out-of-town s-i-l, the tree looks good**, and we won the freaking game.***

More about that game later.
** We always go the real tree route. Am I the only one who obsesses about whether it is straight or not? I’m not sure it’s possible to have a perfectly vertical tree, but I check it about once an hour to make sure it isn’t leaning one more degree than it was an hour earlier.

** A lot more about that game later.

When the girls woke up Sunday morning, there was a thin layer of snow on the ground. I saw a whole new level of wound up as M. and C. pressed their noses against the window and watched the fat flakes come down. C. is super excited to get out and make snow angels. Since S. was heading to work and I didn’t think L. needed to spend time outside, we put those off for another day (perhaps Monday from the sounds of the forecast).

All-in-all, a good if busy weekend. And for my long time readers, yes, I was able to pop in my DVD of the Cheers Thanksgiving Orphans episode on Thursday night and enjoy my annual viewing of my favorite Thanksgiving treat.

I hope you all had safe and happy holidays, too.

Now, it’s time to break out the Christmas music and movies and get into the spirit of the season.

New Season

The high school girls basketball season has started here in Indiana, and I got to cover my first game of the year last night. It was kind of a big deal because my editor handed me an official newspaper laptop and told me to keep it for the season. Which means I’ll be covering at least one game a week for the next three months. I’m moving up in the world.<!–more–>

There was definitely some rust on my basketball reporting skills.* I was covering a game in a county tournament and one of the full-time writers was covering the early game. We had to help each other quite a bit as we scrambled to remember how we track stats.

Some of you are saying, “You can write 3000 words about some freshman at KU who has never played a minute. Don’t give me this rusty crap.” But actual reporting means I have to cut the opinion, the silly jokes, the off color comments and stick to facts, quotes, and relate what really happened. And you can’t really rip 15 year old girls. My stories would be awesome if I could write them like a blog post!
Luckily, in some ways, my game was a total blowout. The “home” team was up by one midway through the first quarter. After that, they got outscored 75-12. The “visiting” team** is pretty solid, and feature a 5’3” girl that can score from anywhere on the court. Those of us in press row let out a few “Whoos!” when she hit two step-back three pointers and a couple floaters in the lane.

** I say “home” and “visitor” since it was a neutral court and both teams were really away.

My stats seemed to hold up, but I went down to double check my individual totals with the official box after the game. There was one basket I missed so I was able to identify the correct player (the winning team cleared the bench for the fourth quarter, and had five girls on the court in the closing minutes that weren’t listed on their roster). I scampered out and did two quick interviews and came back to start working on my box score and story.

Then I looked at the clock. 9:45. We have a 10:15 deadline on non-football nights. Wow.

The box score was harder than I thought it would be, and at 10:00 I was just starting my story. I hacked together a pretty crappy piece covering the basics and sent it in at 10:13. It wasn’t good work, but it’s early in the season. Plenty of room for improvement.

Then I opened the Indy Star today and saw they had a different score listed than what I had. They had it at 84-30 while I had it 82-30. I never double-checked the scoreboard in my post-game rush! Oh crap. I felt like garbage and sent my editor an e-mail noting the discrepancy and letting him know I had checked the individual numbers, which added up to 82. He said not to worry, the Star often gets the numbers wrong because parents call them in. Also, since he hadn’t received any e-mails or phone calls about the score being wrong, chances were that I had the correct score.

This afternoon, I was able to check the state high school sports association’s website, and they listed the same score I had. Whew!

Still, not the best way to start the season. I was able to find some ways to improve my stat keeping and some checks to run during the game to make sure I have things under control. Looks like I’ll get to test them out next Wednesday, when I cover the rematch of the teams I saw last night. Hopefully they’ll keep it within 50 this time.

Oh, and some of you may remember the losing team as the team I covered last year with the young, female coach who lit into them during every timeout and pretty much every person in the gym could hear it all. Tres uncomfortable! Absolutely the worst post-game interview I’ve ever had, as the coach was crying and pissed and called her players little babies.

Well, that coach has moved on to another gig, but her dad, who was also the coach before her, has taken over. He’s intense, too, but perhaps a little less demanding. Anyway, despite getting drilled, they seemed better than last year. They’re still very young but the opposing coach said they were the best team she’s seen from that school in years. And I think having a male coach makes a difference. During that game last year, parents were constantly yelling at the girls, telling them to do exactly the opposite of what the coach had said during time outs. I didn’t hear any of that last night.

Name Game, Part 3

It’s time to unveil the details of the great naming dilemma of ’08. I did inform you, dear readers, a couple times that we were struggling greatly with choosing a name for B. Baby number three. We would compile lists, look at them, not feel strongly about any of the names, then chuck them all and start over. For about three months, I think S. spent most of her waking hours either reading baby name books or cruising the Internets for baby name sites. I figured a name would come to us, so just said yay or nay to new suggestions she tossed out.

By September, though, the pressure was beginning to get to us. I still figured we would find something, but there was that fear that the kid might decide to show up early and we wouldn’t have a name for her yet. With M., we went to the hospital without a name, but we had it down to two and were leaning strongly towards M.. Her early arrival just prevented us from nailing it down. We picked C. about two weeks before she was born, and had a strong list of four or five names we had been comfortable with for at least a month before that.

We did some major revamping in September and our final five were, in no particular order:

Erin
Meredith
Reece
Amilia
Alise

Others would pop in and out but those were the constants. Reece was our second choice for C., so we were kind of against it, but since we couldn’t seem to pick one, it kept hanging around.

We weren’t in love with Erin* but it’s a good Irish name which would keep with our Celtic theme.

*Apologies to my good friend Erin in Denver.

We both loved Meredith, but A) we have friends in KC who have a Meredith and B) M. is already MMB, and we knew the middle name for this one would be Margaret and didn’t want two MMBs in the family. Meredith Margaret sure sounds Irish Catholic! Oh, and while S. watches Grey’s Anatomy, I’m not a fan, which was another half strike against it.

I was leaning strongly towards Alise for much of the month. Two problems with it, though. A) One of my best friends has an Elise. B) We were concerned people would call her Alice. Yuck.**

** No offense to any Alices out there.

Which brings us to Amilia. We both liked it, but wondered if it was on the verge of becoming popular (a big reason we didn’t go with Reece last time). Again, we have friends in KC who have an Emilia, although they call her Mia. Which made us think of taking it in another direction. Couldn’t we call our Amilia L.?

We thought about it, went back-and-forth, and debated whether just to name her L., or Amilia and then call her L.. At some point in this process, my mother-in-law called and suggested L. as a name. That seemed like a sign of some kind, so L. officially went on the list.

So now we’re about two weeks out and S. was spending hours at her computer looking at Amilia, L., Alise, and Meredith in different fonts, waiting for one to jump out at her. I don’t know when the exact moment was, but at some point that weekend, we both agreed the baby would be L..

We went with the Italian/Spanish spelling instead of our usual Celtic spelling. Baby number three has to be special somehow.

We did worry about people being able to pronounce the name correctly. Spelling errors we can deal with; we get stuff for Megan and Kate all the time. But we don’t want to give the kid a name that no one can pronounce. After much thought, we decided people would be able to figure out L.. So naturally the reminder call from our pediatrician for her first weight check went something like this:

“This is Dr. B’s office calling to remind you that Lie-uh…Lie-uh…umm, Lee-uh has a weight check at…”

Good grief.

Anyway, we really like L. and are very pleased with our choice.

Balls

Some commentary on two of my favorite teams in the world below the jump.

Just finished watching the DEFENDING NATIONAL CHAMPION Kansas Jayhawks open their basketball season with a win over mighty UMKC. An ugly first half ended with the teams tied at 32. The Jayhawks got some rhythm in the second half and pulled away for a relatively easy win.

One word sums up what I expect from this season: fun. It’s fun to be the DEFENDING NATIONAL CHAMPIONS. But it’s also going to be a lot of fun watching this team develop. The obvious, and oft-stated, comparison is to the team of four years ago, when Rush, Chalmers, Wright, and others were freshmen. They were awful early in the season, with Chalmers famously unable to dribble the ball past half court against Arizona’s press in Hawaii, but ended up winning the Big 12 tournament before the loss to Bradley in the opening round of the tournament.

That’s what I expect from this year’s team as well. A lot of ugly for the next couple months. In addition to figuring out how to work in the Morris twins, Releford, Thomas, and Taylor, two Juco transfers, including the Juco player of the year, are currently rehabbing injuries. If the team is starting to figure things out in December, I expect them to take a step back when Mario Little comes back and disrupts that rhythm. They are lucky, though, to have a core of Sherron Collins and Cole Aldrich to build around. If those guys can stay on the court, things get a lot easier for everyone else.

They have tons of potential, though, and there will be nights when they look very good. They’re not repeating, but they’re not missing the tournament, either. This year is all about rebuilding and setting the stage for the next few years.

As for the other big team on campus, there’s no way to say this football season hasn’t been disappointing. I was hoping for 8-4, would have been fine with 7-5, but since 6-6 gets us to a bowl game this year (unlike two years ago), I’ll take it.* My goal for this year was just to get to a second-straight bowl game for the first time in school history. That will happen.

Baring an outbreak of gonorrhea in the Mizzou locker room over the next week, KU doesn’t have much of a chance at Arrowhead two weeks from now. But, this is Mizzou we’re talking about, so anything is possible on the STD tip.
So what happened? I’m not sure. I don’t know if it’s coaching (did the change in defensive coordinator cause the more passive approach by the D this year?); big heads on the returning players; Collins, McClinton, Talib, Fine, and McAnderson really were that important; a couple big recruits not performing as expected; or just the schedule. Probably a combination of all those.

When I’ve seen the team this year (I’ve seen parts of seven of their games) the biggest problem has been play on both lines. The o-line can’t seem to either create the big holes they did last year, or consistently give Todd Reesing time in the pocket. The d-line has been incapable of getting pressure on the opposing QB. The first problem has bogged down the offense. The second has put pressure on the d-backs that they didn’t have last year. In the Big 12, you can’t rely on your d-backs to save your bacon on every down.

So it’s been a disappointing year. But the team is still set to go to a bowl game, even if slightly less impressive in stature as the Orange Bowl. Given where the program was a decade ago, when even getting to November with an outside shot at bowl eligibility seemed like a huge accomplishment, things are pretty good. If the team takes advantage of that extra month of practice that comes with a bowl game and is prepared for next year, when the schedule gets a little more advantageous, it could turn into the 7-8 win year we were hoping for this year.

Oh, I know what’s been missing this year. Rock Chalk, bitches.

More Words

I promise I’ll get back to a regular schedule here eventually. If only I could get back on a regular schedule around the house.

In the interim, another funny saying from one of the girls.

When I was putting C. down for her nap today she was super wound up. She looked at me and said, “Dad, I’m going to play with the Diego game that Santa Claus is going to bring me. I hope it works so that I can play with it. If it doesn’t work, you will get new batteries and then it will work.”

OK.

She put her head down, then quickly popped back up.

“I’m excited, dad. I’m excited.”

Then back down.

No kidding.

Proof that having an older sibling jump starts the learning process. M. was clueless about Christmas when she was two. Now C. is talking about what Santa is going to bring her two months before the big day.

Words

Both big sisters have a funny catch phrase at the moment.

M. uses the word “imaginate” a lot. As in, “Dad, I was imaginating at school today about being a princess.” Or, “C., let’s imaginate that we’re princess fairies.” For some reason I prefer that word to pretend.

C. is pointing out how she carefully considers everything by adding the “I think” qualifier to many of her statements. “I hungwy, dad. I wanna eat I fink.” Or, “Baby Wia is cwying. She sad, I fink.”

That’s pretty cute, I think, err, fink.

44

What follows are some meandering thoughts on Tuesday night’s events. I don’t promise that they’re particularly interesting or insightful, but they do represent how I feel about that historic evening. Oh, and way less then the 18,000 words I wrote four years ago!

The front page of Wednesday’s Indianapolis Star blared a one-word headline: HISTORY. I thought, couldn’t they have at least interviewed me if they were going to write about me?

That’s right, the vote I cast a week ago, unlikely as it may seem, was the first time my vote has counted toward a presidential candidate’s electoral college total. Each time before, I had either voted for the losing candidate, or voted for the winner, but in a state he lost. Thus, my ’92 and ’96 votes for Clinton in Kansas, my ’00 vote for Gore in Missouri, and my ’04 vote for Kerry in Indiana were meaningless.

But this time, thanks to a massive ground effort, Barack Obama picked off Indiana, a 44-year red state, on his way to the White House. I genuinely feel like my vote made a difference. It was a sure thing that he would roll up big numbers in the state’s handful of Democratic counties. Even with big totals there, though, it would still be difficult to win Indiana. That’s where I, and people like me, came into play. It would be easy for me to stay home on Election Day (or early Election Day, as it were). The odds of a Democrat winning Indiana are slim. The county I live in is basically a one-party county. Roughly half of the offices on the ballot here featured Republicans running unopposed. Few of the handful of Democrats running had a legitimate shot to win their race. So the easy thing to do is to stay home and hope the rest of the country picks up the slack. But enough of us showed up across the state to cut McCain’s margin in the red counties way down from those Bush ran up four years ago. The result was, as the final votes were tallied, an amazing upset.

My vote counted. Yes I Can.

It goes without saying that I was in a better mood when I woke up Wednesday than I was the mornings after the last two presidential elections. That’s saying something, because Tuesday night / Wednesday morning I was suffering from a massive sinus headache most of the night, we had a fussy baby and two big sisters who are still confused about the time change. But, as I was feeding L. at 4:00 AM, I got a text saying Indiana had gone blue, and the need for sleep dissipated.

Yes, I’m thrilled Barack won. I’m delighted at the margin of victory, the tilt of states from red to blue, and all of that.

But, I am humbled by the meaning of his victory. I’m not talking about party or policy or philosophy. I’m talking about a black man being elected to live in the White House. 20 years ago, I was sitting in my bedroom, reading the Autobiography of Malcolm X, listening to Public Enemy, and wondering why, 20 years after the civil rights movement, so many people I lived around and went to school with continued to see the world through a prism that automatically discounted people who had darker skin than us. As Jesse Jackson was mocked for running for the Democratic presidential nomination, the unspoken rule was that blacks need not apply to the nation’s highest office, no matter how much progress they were otherwise making.

That didn’t seem to change in the 90s, despite African American culture taking a place square in the mainstream of pop culture, as Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods, and Oprah became essential icons. As we moved to the 21st century, it seemed more likely we’d see a Hispanic president than an African American one. There were a handful of black senators and governors and cabinet members, but none seemed to have the national profile needed to make a run for the White House.

Yet here we are.

I was thrilled when Clinton won in 1992. That was my first election as a voter and my guy won. I thought the world was perfect. I was happy when he won in ’96, but it was more a feeling of relief. Despite being a Kansan and a Jayhawk, I didn’t want Bob Dole anywhere near the White House. I was devastated in both 2000 and ’04, partially because I underestimated the effects that the Karl Rove school of campaigning could have on a race. “Aren’t we better than this?” I thought each time.

But Tuesday night? I felt emotions I’ve never felt before on Election Day. Like a lot of people, I expected the win. When Ohio was called, I did some quick calculations, adding in west coast states that were sure to go blue, and saw the election was over no matter what happened in Virginia, Florida, Indiana, and Missouri. And still, when the clock struck 11:00 Eastern and David Gregory said they could now make the announcement that MSNBC was projecting that Barack Obama would be the next president, there was a flood of emotions I never expected. I wasn’t bawling like Jesse Jackson, but I have no trouble admitting there were some tears flowing.

Which might seem weird, for a white guy who grew up in the suburbs in a home first of modest means and later of more comfortable means, and who has only a couple African American friends. But since I became politically aware and adopted a system of beliefs, racial politics and civil rights have been at the core of my ideology. One of my core beliefs is that government exists to eliminate the barriers raised through history that prevent every person in this country from having an equal opportunity to succeed or fail.

To borrow a phrase that’s been used way too much the last two days, this was the mountaintop, although one I never expected to be scaled. While we will always have racial divides to bridge – people being people, there will always be some who point to the differences between us as an explanation for the troubles we face – as each year passes things get a little closer to the ideal. Barack Obama’s election is a massive step towards finally reaching that ideal. For at least the next four years, parents, teachers, and mentors can point to the White House and say “Anything is possible.”* It may be only a symbolic moment, but it feels much greater than that.

I kept expecting Kevin Garnett to come out on stage Tuesday and scream “Anything is possible!” as he did after the Celtics won the NBA title last June.
I do wonder if I could truly separate party and policy from accomplishment. Would I have had the same emotions had Colin Powell run, and won, in 2000 as a Republican? Probably not, although I believe I would have still been proud of the country and recognized it as a moment of massive change. But the same emotions? I doubt it.

And now the hard part. Despite being an early supporter, largely because of his stance on the war in Iraq, I did have some concerns about Barack’s readiness for office. Those concerns were addressed and satisfied over the course of the campaign, and I believe he is well prepared and suited to be a fine president. But capacity and readiness for office don’t necessarily make a great president, as events may conspire to wreck a presidency. He will enter office with a reservoir of good will and about 20 minutes of slack. Iraq is George Bush’s war. The economic meltdown is the responsibility of Bush and his economic team. But the first time something bad happens in Iraq or Afghanistan, or the first time the stock market plunges 500 points, Bush will be forgotten and the responsibility will rest with Barack. It’s a daunting time to take on that responsibility. I believe he’s up to the task. He better be, for all our sakes.

Best of all, no more political ads for awhile. Change we can all believe in!

Change Is Gonna Come

I guess there’s some big thing going on tomorrow (or more likely today, depending on when you’re reading this). All I know is I voted last week but for some reason I still won’t be able to buy beer tomorrow, which I think is garbage. This country might be a better place if you could get loaded before you voted.*

I think I use this line after every election.
I must say, early voting is the greatest invention since democracy itself. I’m not sure how conservatives like George Will and Fred Barnes can say, with a straight face, it’s a bad thing. Anything that gives eligible voters a greater chance to participate is a good thing. Because, you know, participation is the key element of democracy.

So, my sympathies to those of you who will be waiting in lines tomorrow.

I don’t know that I’ll be doing my 10,000 summation of election night as I did four years ago. I only had one kid then and it’s hard to find that kind of keyboard time these days. I do plan on connecting with a certain election party in Kansas City via iChat, so I may get to share my thoughts live with some of you.

Four years ago I made some bold predictions, based mostly on wishful thinking and belief that the movement the polls showed in the final days would be exaggerated on Election Night. Whoops.

This year, I don’t expect any big surprises. The polls at the national level have been steady for weeks. At the state level, there has been some tightening in a couple important states, but not enough to swing the election. Based on my most recent visit to 270towin.com, I have it at Obama 364, McCain 174. I think there’s one more state that could flip blue but I won’t call it.** I see Barack’s ceiling at 390, his floor at 278. At the popular vote level, I’ll go out on a limb and say Barack gets 52% of the vote to McCain’s 47%, with others grabbing the last 1%.

** I think Indiana stays red. Barely. But, if Barack does win here, the networks are going to lose a lot of viewers, because the race will be over early.

No matter who you support, or are against, I hope you have either voted or plan on getting out tomorrow.

Halloween 2008

Another successful Halloween for the B. girls. M. went as a ballerina, while C. recycled M.’s pink octopus costume from two years ago. We planned on taking L. in a pumpkin hat and onesie, but she demanded a bottle just as we were heading out so she stayed home.

M. was really into it. She’d march right up, say “Trick or treat!” and select her candy, chatting people up along the way. C. was into everything but the social aspect. She’d mumble “Trick or treat” and then dive right in, raking candy into her bag without looking at or talking to anyone. Then she’d quickly exit before she got roped into a conversation.

As in years past, M. was also into handing out the candy. We were running a little late, so were still shoveling dinner in when the first kids hit our house. Each time the doorbell rang, both M. and C. climbed out of their chairs and raced to the door with me. M. held one of the bowls most of the night. I was impressed that she hung in there when some of the bigger kids were shoving each other to get at the bowl.

Best costume I saw all night? No brainer. The last kid who came to our door just after 8:00 was sporting a Mario Chalmers jersey. I asked if he was interested in having his entire college tuition funded by a stranger but he just took the candy.*

I didn’t really make that offer. I thought it, though.
Saturday we went to a birthday party for one of our neighbors who turned six. It was at the Bounce Zone, which, if you’ve not been there, rents out rooms full of giant inflated bounce pits, slides, etc. The neighbor is a boy, so most of the other partygoers were boys. We got there a little late and everyone was really wound up already. C. wanted nothing to do with the room, so she hung out in the lobby with L. and the other parents. I worked steadily to get M. to do something. She climbed up a tall slide, maybe 10 feet or so high, and then screamed that she wanted to get down. I told her the only way down was to come down the slide. She bought it, slid down, and wasn’t thrilled with the experience. Finally, after the birthday boy’s three-year-old sister hooked up with M., she got more interested and involved. By the time she really got into it, of course, it was time to evacuate for the cake and presents room. Oh well, next time she’ll do better.

By the way, the presents portion of the day was strangely famiL.r. The kid got at least seven Star Wars toys. It felt more like 1978 than 2008. I know there’s the new Star Wars cartoon but still, that’s crazy. His dad told me that they have the Star Wars Wii game, and after the kids are in bed, he and his brother play and beat the crap out of each other.

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